Out of Courtesy
1. Which of the three “basic ingredients” of
courtesy makes the must sense to you?
Ans: The three basic ingredients are:
1. A strong sense of justice
2. Empathy
3. The capacity to treat all people alike
4. Every culture/ religion has its own golden
rule that people try to live by. What is yours? How do people apply it?
Ans: The belief in the existence of a god or gods
and the activities that are connected with the worship of them is called
religion. Every religion has its own golden rules that people try to live by.
My religion is Hindu which has also some golden rules that we find people try
to live by.
Courtesy, politeness
and good manners are the basic ingredients of our culture. We respect to our
seniors and love to our juniors. We respect and welcome to our guests heartily
since guests are supposed as gods. Parents and teachers are highly respected
and supposed as gods. We think that our birth place is dearer than heaven. We
help to the poor giving money or something. We don’t try to do bad or sinful
works because we afraid of gods. There are many other golden rules in our
culture.
Culture rules are
transferred from one generation to another by following them. People apply the
rules in their life and make their life valuable. Our rules have really made us
practicable (capable or useful). People apply these rules by following them in
their day-to-day life.
3. Do you agree with Dr. Peale that our lives
would be happier if we all had better manners? Explain.
Ans: Yes, I agree with Dr. Peale that our
lives would be happier if we all had better manners. It is clear that a person
can be happy when he/ she is politely and respectably behaved. Many things come
under good manners. Respecting to seniors, loving to juniors, speaking
politely, helping to the poor, not speaking false etc. are the examples of good
manners. If we all have good manners, we will behave to others well and we
shall be well behaved by others. When we behave to others with good manners,
they are happy and we are also happy when we are behaved with good manners. In
this way good manners bring happiness in the lives of everyone.
If we all have good
manners, we shall not have negative attitudes and feelings. God manners will
stop us to do any kinds of works and being cruel to others. Good manners will
really create only positive attitudes in our mind. Good manners will also
create the world of happiness and we will be the happy persons of that happy
world but these all things are only possible when we all have good manners.
4. Are there universal good manners? In other
words, is there a core of good manners that polite people of all countries
recognize? Or, are good manners different for each individual culture?
Ans: I cannot simply say that there are universal
good manners. Manners mean the habits and customs of a particular group of
people. Manners also refer the way that somebody behaves and speaks towards
other people. Manners differ from culture to culture, religion to religion and
country to country. We can see many examples that prove that there are not
universal good manners. For example: Bride wears red clothes in marriage in
Hindu religion which is supposed best but in Christianity, bride wears white
dress. What a difference white dress suits for bride in Christianity while in Hindu
religion a widow wears white dress.
Good manners are
different rather than universal due to various cultural norms and values. The
manner which is best in one culture, religion or country may be worst in
another religion, culture or country. A hug or a kiss is supposed common in
western culture but it is not accepted in our culture.
However, there are
certain core good manners which people of all countries recognize. Such as to
respect to the seniors, to love to the juniors, to welcome to the guests
heartily, to speak politely, to respect and obey parents and teachers. In this
way justice, politeness, empathy, honesty, faithful, to treat all people alike
etc. are the core of good manners that polite people of all countries
recognize.
5. Writing Compound Sentences.
Form compound
sentences by adding an independent clause (With a subject and verb).
a. Did they treat you
courteously, or ……?
Ans: Did they treat
you courteously, or were they rude to you?
b. The studens respect
that teacher, for ……
Ans: The students
respect that teacher, for she is always prepared for class.
c. I wanted to tell
the truth, yet ……
Ans: I wanted to tell
the truth, yet I was afraid of how you would react to it.
d. ……, so I told a
white lie (untrue statement)
Ans: I was afraid of
hurting my mother’s feeling, so I told a white lie.
e. ……, but I was
suspicious of their motives.
Ans: They were eager
to help me, but I was suspicious of their motives.
f. ……, and another is
empathy.
Ans: Justice is one of
the ingredient of good manners, and another is empathy.
g. ……, nor should you
fail to return a person’s phone call.
Ans: To be polite in
the USA, you shouldn’t fail to look at your interlocutor’s (person taking part
in conversation with you) eyes, nor should you fail to return a person’s phone
call.
h. ……, so their
children will probably have very good manners.
Ans: My uncle and aunt
have taught their children about good manners, so their children will probably
have very good manners.
i. ……, for the
thoughts in your mind determine the kind of person you are.
Ans: Be careful what
you think of other people, for the thoughts in your mind determine the kind of
person you are.
j. ……, nor is he very
tactful.
Ans: He isn’t very
thoughtful, nor is he very tactful.
6. Writing Complex
Sentences.
Add an independent
clause to each dependent clause to make a complex sentence.
a. …… even though
John’s rude remark made me angry.
Ans: I didn’t react
even though John’s rude remark made me angry.
b. …… since he lied to
me last year.
Ans: I can’t trust Hari
since he lied to me last year.
c. Whenever someone is
rude to me, ……
Ans: Whenever someone
is rude to me, I try not to be rude in return.
d. …… because he is
considerate of others.
Ans: Hari gets along
(to interact well) with people at work because he is considerate of others.
e. …… so that they
will treat me courteously, too.
Ans: I always try to
treat people courteously so that they will treat me courteously, too.
f. If a person’s bad
manner bother you, ……
Ans: If a person’s bad
manners bother you, it may be best just to tolerate the person’s bad manners.
g. Although I try to
think in a courteous way, ……
Ans: Although I try to
think in a courteous way, people sometimes blame me for not being courteous.
h. …… even when they
are treated discourteously.
Ans: People with good
manners respond politely even when they are treated discourteously.
i. If people practice
courtesy, ……
Ans: If people
practice courtesy, it will eventually become a habit.
j. Because Mr. Vann is
suspicious of other’s motives, ……
Ans: Because Mr. Vann
is suspicious of other’s motives, he can’t really accept their help.
