Are most Nepali marries still arranged?
or
What are your views on the subject of arranged marriage?
Nepal has still a large scope of
arranged marriage whether it is bad or good culture. Most of Nepali marriages
are taken as the arranged pattern. For this system westerners who mostly follow
love marriage may feel odd and surprised. Arranged marriage is suitable and common
phenomena in Nepali context.
No doubt, in the name of arranged
marriage there would be couple (boy and girl) are not given chance to meet and
spend time together beforehand. Sometimes the married life can't be happy and
satisfactory because there is no chance to share and understand each other's
interests, likes and dislikes. A changing picture can be seen that there is a
system of giving chance to have short discussion and self-decision to the
candidates. Again, in term of after married life durability there are less rates
of divorced couples in Nepal like countries. This problem seems very higher
disagree in western countries where love marriage is mostly selected.
Arranged marriage is always not good
because all arranged marriages are not systematically arranged. The marriage
which we see in exercise in Indian culture has more advantages and least
disadvantages. My opinion about arranged marriage is fully positive because our
family and neighbours seem happy and satisfied under arranged marriage system.
There is trust and more responsibility between couple and future care for
upcoming children. As there is total freedom in love marriage, sometimes such
love marriages may have problem of divorce and mistrust. Again, all the
arranged marriages are always not fitted and apt. The marriage where
participants are educated, candidates are awarded and marriage bond is
understandably matched this can be an ideal example of arranged marriage. I
also like to support such marriage system.
There can be a question: How can a
woman always be puppet in the hand of husband in arranged marriage? How can woman
get freedom and choice in arranged marriage?, etc. But the arranged marriage
becomes the best when all people are too much careful about class, standard,
culture, education and others. Lastly, I can say that over freedom in love
marriage is poisonous and over restriction in arranged marriage can't be nectar
(honey ) either.
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