Wednesday, July 31, 2013

Are most Nepali marries still arranged?

Are most Nepali marries still arranged?
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What are your views on the subject of arranged marriage?
Nepal has still a large scope of arranged marriage whether it is bad or good culture. Most of Nepali marriages are taken as the arranged pattern. For this system westerners who mostly follow love marriage may feel odd and surprised. Arranged marriage is suitable and common phenomena in Nepali context.
No doubt, in the name of arranged marriage there would be couple (boy and girl) are not given chance to meet and spend time together beforehand. Sometimes the married life can't be happy and satisfactory because there is no chance to share and understand each other's interests, likes and dislikes. A changing picture can be seen that there is a system of giving chance to have short discussion and self-decision to the candidates. Again, in term of after married life durability there are less rates of divorced couples in Nepal like countries. This problem seems very higher disagree in western countries where love marriage is mostly selected.
Arranged marriage is always not good because all arranged marriages are not systematically arranged. The marriage which we see in exercise in Indian culture has more advantages and least disadvantages. My opinion about arranged marriage is fully positive because our family and neighbours seem happy and satisfied under arranged marriage system. There is trust and more responsibility between couple and future care for upcoming children. As there is total freedom in love marriage, sometimes such love marriages may have problem of divorce and mistrust. Again, all the arranged marriages are always not fitted and apt. The marriage where participants are educated, candidates are awarded and marriage bond is understandably matched this can be an ideal example of arranged marriage. I also like to support such marriage system.

There can be a question: How can a woman always be puppet in the hand of husband in arranged marriage? How can woman get freedom and choice in arranged marriage?, etc. But the arranged marriage becomes the best when all people are too much careful about class, standard, culture, education and others. Lastly, I can say that over freedom in love marriage is poisonous and over restriction in arranged marriage can't be nectar (honey ) either.

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